What Have You Done?
Election day has arrived, and with it ends more than a year of deliberation, anxiety, fear, hope and anguish. The culmination of the countless hours we’ve wasted watching our country devolve into a modern civil war. The rest of the planet has chewed their fingernails to the bone. We live in the “greatest democracy on Earth”, yet our democratic process has yielded two choices we don’t want. Today, most Americans cast their vote in a state of detached obligation.
So how did we get here? How did we go through the voting process and somehow choose people we didn’t want to choose? You could point to many things (HRC and DNC sabotaging Bernie, GOP giving no good alternative to Trump, we don’t know the difference between a politician and entertainer, etc.), but I think we need to go back to the source.
The two party system should die.
I mean like tomorrow.
To segment the population into only two groups is to narrow our scope of expression. It assumes that if I support a viewpoint, then I support everything from the group that viewpoint is attached to. This leaves no room to mix and match viewpoints from both groups, which is where many of us fall.
The two parties we have now aren’t even good. No one should be 100% Democrat or Republican, because they both cause cognitive dissonance. They both have philosophies that contradict themselves when you dig into the issues. Republicans want government out of the lives of the people, unless you’re Muslim, want an abortion or want to marry the person you love (whoops they have a penis too). Democrats are for the people and peace, yet Obama’s continued drone strikes, NSA surveillance and contempt for whistleblowers seem to be at odds with that.
Politics has always been an effort of politicians to acceptably stroke their own ego in public, which requires one to follow the party to have the avenue toward public office. But it has now come to the point where protecting a politician’s ego involves being fiercely against their opponent. They more they show constituents they dislike their opponent, the more they instill a sense of community within the party. It’s us against the ever ominous “them”. Much like religion, if you create a community united around certain beliefs and don’t tolerate any other beliefs, conflict will arise.
So now our two parties force us to choose black or white, with gray never quite reaching 15% in the polls. This will never properly reflect a diverse group like America and is an idiotic endeavor to continue.
We should simply conduct national polls on the major policy issues and provide a wide array of options for people to choose. This information can be given to politicians, and they can choose where they fall on each then they can run on those issues. People will choose from the candidates, who will already have been screened on their issues essentially, and will be able to narrow down who is closest to their beliefs.
Sadly, the two major American political parties are controlled by big money interests that can outspend the rest of us combined. The way we fund politics must fundamentally change before we could pursue any of this, but I realize this is unrealistic. The two parties are so embedded into the current system, so we need to reevaluate every existing member of our elective office.
Which brings me back to this election.
Hillary has done exactly what a politician is supposed to do. Appeal to their party, work their way up the ranks, pay their dues and eventually reap the benefits. This is not a good thing when it’s the Democratic party. Cutting deals is a reality in the political process, and I guess I’m glad she has that skill, but it’s shady nonetheless. She heavily tipped the scales against Bernie (who would probably have beaten Trump by 20 points), and still barely won. She has been blaming Russia for things based on no conclusive information, yet she harps on James Comey for doing the same with her investigation. I personally don’t hate her. She has not always been a champion of women, but I think she can be. I think she’s retained human empathy over the years and I have deep respect for any mother. This respect also leads me to judge her fairly, which I believe these assessments do.
I have not a single shred of respect for Mr. Trump. If you had never heard of him and I described Donald Trump to you then showed you footage of him, you’d fall out of your chair laughing. Trump’s head is so far inside of himself he could do self prostate exams with his own eyes. He only works in the context of this election, and I find it hilarious and terrifying. He shows how much displaced anger we have in America. It’s troubling to see how far people are willing to let morality decline when they want to express their anger (or protect their ego).
I absolutely place blame on the political parties.
They constructed these monolithic institutions and must realize the people are rejecting them. By polarizing us to two different sides, you have created a rift in America. They have created this modern civil war and we need to be the ones to stop it. We do have some power left, which is why you must vote. There are good people out there who listen to their voters over their party. You can’t let the parties’ BS dissuade you from expressing yourself. Apathy for voting is not a side effect, its their goal. Less votes mean less people to control. So by not voting you’re not protesting the system, you’re buying in.
Whatever happens, we need to understand each other. We’re all scared and confused and upset, but we solve those things by working together and loving each other. It’s not you against me, it’s all of us against the people who have robbed our democracy of integrity. We’re going to be fine if we take a moment to care about the person next to us and inspire them to do the same.
Now we wait and enjoy the greatest gift of this election, its conclusion.
Let It Go
Bernie Sanders lost California.
The hail-mary, delegate-rich state let Sanders down. So what’s his game plan now?
Sanders plans to carry on and make the case that despite the will of the people, more polls have him winning against Trump. He wants to assure the DNC that all those things he said before about them, he didn’t mean it. This has just been a year of playing hard to get. It’s truly ironic that Bernie is now trying to appeal to the ‘establishment’ while ignoring the results of the voters. Sanders has framed his comeback well, but it’s time to admit the truth. Math don’t lie.
This election has been stupid, depressing, infuriating, childish, amusing, inspiring and unpredictable, but it’s almost over. We have waded through the potentials, given out the roses and established our clear match-up. But now we have a new problem. The two candidates who received the most votes seem to be the most hated. This seems so dissonant to me. We’re complaining that people we overwhelmingly voted for are not the people we want. This has got to be an ego hit to everyone not elected. Against the two most disliked nominees in recent history you still can’t win?
Senator Sanders refuses to accept this fact, adopting the victim role in a process he’s claimed to be rigged. And it was rigged in many senses, but that’s like saying the refs made some horrible calls in a game you would have lost anyway. Bernie is a big promoter of democracy and voting, so I think he would agree that elected officials should be those that are elected. Hillary has the majority of pledged delegates now, so Sanders needs to figure out his next steps without dragging heels too much.
My worry is that Senator Sanders’ legacy will be damaged by his recent behavior. The message of political participation and economic justice will resonate for years to come, but his argument is being sullied by his recent tone. His campaign gained momentum guided by Bernie’s blunt, but respectful discourse regarding his platform. Now it seems his main topics are blame and bitterness. He’s taken the part of rogue a little too seriously, and it’s time for a graceful curtain call.
Had Mr. Sanders entered a political race on a completely level playing ground, he might have won. But he didn’t, so we now have millions of Bernie followers who are outraged without outlet. The angry voters have become like dogs, and Bernie is essentially holding up a Democratic establishment chew toy (maybe a little donkey?) and training his voters to identify an enemy. Now that Bernie has effectively riled up the electorate, we can’t just turn the dogs loose and expect them to go against instinct and vote Democrat.
Trying to be Noah as the revolutionary flood tried to wipe away the corrupt world and pave the way for a brighter future was a bold strategy by Sanders, but now it’s raining and there’s no ark. Let’s start to build one and get behind Hillary, who can beat Donald Trump easily if people show up to vote. I still prefer her to Trump. I’ll take experience over showmanship any day. I think it’s easy to sit on the sideline and critique things, but Donald has never had a political role that remotely prepares him for this.
Trump will treat all presidential activities as negotiations. He avoided taxes by dragging his feet and openly devaluing his properties while declaring to the public their exaggerated value, leading to a ‘$10 billion’ personal worth that’s almost as bloated as Donald himself. Lawsuits roll off his tongue but rarely come to fruition because it’s all just a bluff. When you’re gambling not with your personal assets, but with the general welfare of the U.S., a strong-armed bluff is not always the correct decision. He would threaten other countries with actions he’ll never use, using bullying and fear as his moral compass. Yet this is Trump’s modus operandi, as he prides himself on his stubborn masculinity.
I love that a woman has a strong possibility to be President of the United States, and it will be interesting to see First Ladykiller Bill at 1600 Penn again, but being a major party nominee may not be the only first of her campaign. Being under investigation elicits a serious question of ethics about Secretary Clinton, something you should research for yourself.
This election has tapped into the boiling discontent in the American people, but now we’ve reached the end and all we have left is our anger. As Bernie continues to run, he may make a substantial case for the nomination if Hillary is indicted or deemed incapable. If that doesn’t come to fruition, Bernie has to let it go. He’s a wonderful community organizer and a breathe of fresh air in our political system, but minority voters predominantly went Hill-cat so suck it up. He’s pulled her agenda left, so you can’t say he hasn’t had a substantial effect on the election.
No one is going to be happy, but we need to participate. The next President will likely select several Supreme Court justices and may oversee the end of ISIS, the dissolving of the EU, rising tensions with China over disputed territory, meetings with Vladimir Putin, etc. I do not want this person to be Trump. I believe Hillary is capable of learning from her mistakes, and at the least will be an extension of Obama’s not-perfect-but-sort-of-heading-in-the-right-direction agenda.
If life gives you lemons, you vote for the lemon who’s not a pompous troglodyte. You still have a voice in November and you should exercise it. This election was definitely not what we wanted, but it may be what we deserve.
6 Ways To Find Good Music
Discovering music you love is like locking eyes with your soulmate for the first time. You knew you were meant to be together, but never knew the other existed. It takes effort, patience and a little courage to fight through the legwork, but when the music connects with you in that special way it’s worth all the trouble it took to find it.
Due to so much music being available through so many different mediums, sifting through it all can be exhausting. The sheer number of songs has skyrocketed at a time when producing music has never been more accessible.
I’ll give you ways to discover new genres and artists, but you need a way to actually listen to the specific artists and songs you find. Purchasing the music is always recommended, but if that’s financially unfeasible I recommend Youtube, Soundcloud, or any streaming service (I currently use Spotify, but you may also like Tidal, Google Play, Apple Music, Last.fm, Bandcamp, Grooveshark or any others).
Traditionally, radios and record labels were the major gatekeepers and tastemakers of music. With the rise in technology and the fall of costs needed to produce songs, we now have so many ways to access and make music that it has become overwhelming. I hope to provide some ways for you to filter it down and help connect you with good music. And if you’re going to download music for free, at least share the music with loved ones or social media.
Here are 6 ways that can help you find that golden oldie or the next best thing.

1) Festival Lineups
Music festivals have become an excellent way to introduce music lovers to new bands and new sounds. There’s a festival for everyone nowadays. Whether you want to live the pug life at this pug-themed festival, or harmonize with Sebastien the crab at the Underwater Music Festival, there’s a festival out there that can connect your interests and tastes with fresh music.
Themed music festivals can help narrow down the musical spectrum and give you new music related to an artist you already enjoy. Obviously you can find established artists headlining these festivals, but the surrounding musical acts are often up-and-coming or unfairly overlooked. The variety of niche music and performers showcased by music festivals is a great resource to start your search.
Tools:
This site provides a comprehension festival search tool and the “categories” section is an excellent place to begin. Find a festival that piques your interest then check out the supporting bands. Not all of these festivals include music, but you should never limit yourself.
A “small crew of dedicated festival fans” have created a massive database of music festivals. Their website is easy to use and it brings the lineups of the festivals right to your fingertips.
2) Record Labels
If your favorite musician is signed to a label, why not check out the other artists under the label? Three huge music labels currently own the majority of recorded music in the word, but independent labels have been getting stronger every year. You can start with the big three and go down the sublabel tree, or find indie labels that are making waves outside of the normal channels. Here are some great labels throughout time to get you started.
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3) Blogs/Websites
Blogs are instrumental (pun intended) to the modern music industry. They bring curators, writers and real musicians together to spread new tunes. They also allow for common voices to ring through the excess noise and vouch for music they’re passionate about. There’s a blog for everyone, so start with a genre you love and let the blog guide you by the hand to your next favorite song.
Tools:
Hype Machine
An aggregation of the most popular music blogs is sure to bring you great music. Hype Machine brings you a ton of genres and is perfect for finding the hottest music.
Pitchfork
Look no further for your indie music resource. Pitchfork even has guides to the albums and tracks of each past year, so you can take some time to catch up.
NPR is a wonderful place to read insightful music articles, watch tiny desk performances, or you can check out which new artists the NPR writers pushing. I really like First Listen, which gives you an entire, undivided album to stream.
NoiseTrade
Thousands of free albums and enough genres to cover the basics. You can even connect with the artists and throw them a few dollars if you like their songs!
Music-Map
If you can find an artist you’re really interested in, Music-Map is a visual and creative way to find related artists you may not have known about.
Sputnik Music
Mostly reviews here, but they do have extensive lists about the best albums of each year. You can filter by dozens of different genres. Sputnik doesn’t let you play the music, but they’ll give you enough album picks to last a lifetime.
Noon Pacific
As their name suggests, every Monday at 12 Pacific they drop a mix of the best songs that week into your inbox. Subscribe to them, then go through their archives to see all the songs you missed from the past weeks.
Pigeons and Planes
P&P covers indie/hip-hop music. This is more of an amorphous blog, but the articles are captivating and they pride themselves on highlighting popular artists alongside indie no-names and anything in between.
Earmilk
“All milk. No duds.” Dance, pop, indie, and hip-hop are on the agenda at Earmilk. Their colorful menu at the top will help you filter which type of music and then provide you with several tracks they have personally reviewed.
Stereodose
A site dedicated to matching your drug with your music. An innovative idea that I think can be matched to different moods rather an substances. Don’t worry, there’s no option for bath salts, but the website does include alcohol on the drug list (with fitting choices of “wine and cheese” or “depressed“).
Metacritic
I’m a big fan of Metacritic for consolidating all the info regarding new albums. You can see all the upcoming releases or make sure you’ve heard all the biggest LPs right now.
Gnoosic
Type in three bands to give Gnoosic some ideas, then Gnoosic simply gives you one artist to check out. You have options to say you like it, don’t like it, or don’t know. Based on your answers, Gnoosic will be able to tailor it’s database more specifically to your tastes.
Liveplasma
This site is a beautiful mind-map of music association that begins with your favorite artists.
Consequence of Sound
CoS not only gives you curated picks by their respected staff, but also a great festival search engine to help you find that band you have to see this summer.
Good Music All Day
I’ve followed this blog for years and it’s the real deal. It’s geared toward college-aged adults, but showcases enough new songs to entice any music fan. An eclectic mix of genres organized in a easy, flowing interface provide a simple means for you to discover good music.
ThisSongIsSick.com
This blog is centered around electronic and hip-hop music, but I love the simplicity of the format. I think this blog especially does a great job with highlighting the artists while giving you their music in a concise manner.
Albumoftheyear.org
Pretty self-explanatory. The discover tool on the site provides a simple grid of artists you can use to begin your journey toward unheard music. I also enjoy the sections dedicated to the worst albums. Listen at your own risk.
AllMusic
They describe themselves as “comprehensive and in-depth resource for finding out more about the albums, bands, musicians and songs you love.” They have a discovery tool that filters by genre, mood, and theme. It doesn’t get easier than this.

Music Suggestions Ninja
For those who prefer Youtube playlists, you simply type in an artist and Ninja will generate a playlist of about 15-20 songs. At the bottom of the page they’ve included a groovy word cloud of related bands to put a visual with the playlist.
Discogs
This user-built database has almost 4 and a half million artists for you to sift through. It’s great to look at the entire discog of an artist to find those album cuts. You can even buy vinyls (nearly 20 million) or cassettes!
WhoSampled
Reverse engineer that sample you heard in your favorite song and see where it came from. There are many songs you wouldn’t even realize are samples such as Drake’s Hotline Bling or Daft Punk’s Harder, Better, Faster, Stronger.
The Sirens Sound
Alternative and indie music are highlighted on this site. A unique layout gives the blog an eccentric, lackadaisical feel. They don’t limit their selections to English and neither should you.
Musigh – Reddit Link
Every Sunday this blog used to bring you a few relaxing songs to wrap up/start your week. Though the actual site hasn’t been operation for a couple years, some nice folks on Reddit have compiled songs and related things from the active days of the blog.
Dirty Mexican Lemonade
Simple blog with options to listen to individual songs or download most of them.

Tiny Mixtapes
“Send us a thought, phrase, question, quotation, or whatever else, and if one of our mix tape robots fancies your suggestion, the crazy set of circuits might just make a mix tape out of it.” You’ll find winners like “I’m super gay and super sad” and “smoking crack at church.”
Gorilla vs. Bear
With the endorsement of Tyler the Creator and Playboy behind you, you know your music blog is good.
Billboard
As an aggregator of today’s hottest popular tracks and albums, Billboard tells us which songs are getting radio play and making sales. It may be too mainstream for you, but a song’s popularity should not dissuade you from appreciating it.
Pretty Much Amazing
Options including reviews, streams, and downloads for today’s newest hits and underplayed jams helps this blog live up to its name.
4) Local Concerts
Unless you live in the boonies, local concerts are going to be happening around you. Get off the couch and go support musicians who are performing near you. You could check out the local venues around you to see other upcoming artists who may be unknown to you.
Don’t know where to look for concerts or tickets? Here are a couple tools to help you:
Tools:
Songkick
After entering your location, you’ll have access to all of the concerts happening near you. You’ll be able to track events and see the most popular upcoming shows.
Eventful
Eventful gives you an easier way to look at shows for specific venues and it also shows you everything else besides concerts happening in your city.
5) Radio
No one listens to radio anymore, right? WRONG. In fact, the national radio audience has hit an all-time high for the second year in a row. Radio isn’t limited to AM and FM waves on your stereo anymore, it can be streamed over the Internet by any independent source. Radio services and shows force you to be a passive listener and don’t give you the opportunity to select songs or skip the track. And maybe that’s where some of the appeal lies. Either way, for nearly a century radio play has been the way to listen to music and that hasn’t changed a bit.
Tools:
Pandora
A staple of Internet radio, Pandora offers well-tailored stations and minimal advertising as you enjoy their free and awesome radio service.
TuneIn
This radio service provides listeners more than 100,000 real radio stations and more than four million podcasts streaming from every continent.
8tracks
Conjuring up feelings of nostalgia, 8tracks is internet radio set around making and sharing playlists akin to 8-track cassette tapes. You can feel a personal touch when you enjoy a playlist hand selected by another person. The playlists tend to be named by emotion or a short description, so follow your gut and give one a listen.
Indie Shuffle
This radio service is one of my favorite resources because the website has a beautiful layout and it’s simply one click to start somewhere and let the shuffle take care of the rest.

6) Different Languages
Why limit yourself to English when it’s only a small slice of the musical pie? Different cultures bring different musical styles and you never know what can please your ear. Maybe Swedish metal is your style. Or perhaps KPOP brings out your inner fangirl.
This is one of the harder ways to find music, but it’s great if you want to tout around your sophistication with foreign music or you’re currently learning a foreign language. I used QQ Music to help learn Mandarin and I love the sound of 60s French pop. You can use TuneIn, 8tracks, Amazon, Itunes, Last.fm, or Google to help search for songs/artists/radio stations in the target language and genre you’re looking for.
As you broaden your musical horizons, keep in mind that the journey will be just as pertinent the yielded results. You’ll have to trudge through bad songs and albums, but the process of hearing a new combination of notes, words and elements is enlightening at the least.
Maintain an open mind in regard to music, because one day you’ll write off an artist entirely and the next day they’ll release Purpose and win back your favor. At the moment you may tell your friends you hate country music or you can’t stand jazz, but don’t be so quick to dismiss an entire genre of music based off some acute experiences.
The breadth and scope of musical diversity affords us the opportunity to be at peace with the songs we don’t enjoy and embrace the ones we do with fervent joy. And now that you have the proper tools to tackle the vast ocean of undiscovered music, let’s go fishing.
8 Things China Taught Me
The Wild Wild East has been my home for the last 18 months, and this country has taught me many things about life and myself. China is a fascinating country due to the juxtaposition of 5,000 years of history with some of the most advanced technology on the planet. This dissonance of holding fast to traditional values coupled with the desire to embrace modernity has yielded interesting results. So here are 8 things I learned from living in the Middle Kingdom.
1) Defining Success
Success translates to different things for different cultures. The way a society or individual defines success is a result of their priorities and opportunities. American success is normally tied to security; be it your relationship, financial status, or physical safety. In China, success is defined by very tangible results of financial status. Men are not considered ready to marry if they are without a car, a house, and a job. Children grind through an extremely demanding educational system in the hopes that the stress and tribulations they endure will yield them wealth. For many in China, financial security is the minimum. China is transitioning into its role as an economic superpower, and with this has come ample opportunity to be rich.
Chinese society is embedded with the concept of “face”, which refers to maintaining your public perception. Extravagance is far preferable to living within one’s means, because it shows a “face” that is financially successful. If a product gives off an air of success, many Chinese people jump at the opportunity. In a country that lacks a defining religion, money has become God.
This observation prompted me to define success through my own terms. Success to me is happiness and creative fulfillment. Through those filters I see money as a means to an end, but never the end. I met many Chinese people who seemed to devote so much of their time and energy to work that it become inseparable from their lives. They were defined by their profession and the reward they justified it with. The negative ramifications of becoming your job can be hard to identify when we tie success with money. We see them as an obligatory trial to remain financially secure. But when we adopt this permissive attitude, we allow our life to be consumed by something that will become a deathbed regret. Jobs are a necessary evil, but I believe being happy and at peace with yourself is more valuable than sacrificing your mental well-being for security.
2) Defining Self-worth
Defining success is to see your goals within the big picture of your life, but defining self-worth is to accurately place yourself within this picture. I understand the inherit difficulty in judging your own worth, but charting your journey in life requires a starting point. A big problem in America and China is the way we define our self-worth. The problem lies in who and what we allow to set the criteria for defining ourselves.
America and China have many things in common regarding this. They are the largest consumer bases in the world, so they have been trained to consume. This leads to heavy doses of advertising and marketing that define categories for us to align with. Are you beautiful? Then you must be associated with this product. You want to flaunt your success? This product is what you need. At a certain point, we started to truly believe what society was pushing on us. What if I do need this surgery to become truly beautiful? What if no woman will be attracted to me without this car?
Society’s definition of you doesn’t need to be the final judgement. You hold all the power in this realm, and you should reject an external force defining your internal traits. Maybe society has defined your personality as underachieving or slutty or introvert or whatever new name they choose to place on you. But these terms and prejudices lose all meaning if you consciously reject them. The context of your worth can be through the prism of reality shows and high school-esque gossip, or you can provide your own context. I can’t give you a blueprint for this, but I think that’s kind of the point. It’s up to each individual to position themselves within the fabric of our existence.
3) Awareness
The proliferation of technology in China has created an atmosphere of heavy dependence. Every spare second seems to demand attention to a screen. I walked among the digital dead in China every day and it forced me to examine this relationship between us and our phones. It’s beginning to become ambiguous who is a tool for whom.
The lack of present awareness is not exclusive to China. Every person with access to this technology must decide the limits (or lack of) they choose to place upon their digital needs. Our tech impulses result in a strident refusal to embrace the breadth and scope of each current moment, and I believe it’s unhealthy. Life is not lived through an Instagram filter, it’s realized through the physical connection we can create with this planet and fellow humans. We need to learn to take a god damn break from our cell phones.
4) Different Cultures, Same Desires
Cultures mainly differ in their behavior and communication, but we need to grasp how similar we all are. The different idiosyncrasies and beliefs between cultures can be weapons for prejudice, or we can view them as the icing upon the multi-layered cake that is life. Media and governments are fond of emphasizing the divisions between us, yet they seem to disregard our overlapping desires.
Everyone on this planet wants three squares, safety, and someone to hold at night. We all desire appreciation and kindness to some extent. So as you interact with the people around you and instinctively divide them into mental categories, don’t forget we are all made of the same stardust and our souls are far more similar than our appearance is different.
5) Communicating Beyond Words
My last year in China I worked at a kid’s club where wealthy parents would send their children after school. We taught them English through indirect means such as drama, art, music, and sports. Working with children has substantial benefits and I can’t insist enough that you do it at some point. But working with children who didn’t speak my language encouraged me to practice my non-verbal communication skills. Children don’t get enough credit for how smart they are, and their simple minds can sometimes see things that our jaded adults minds miss. They pick up quickly on body language, facials expressions, and the general vibe given off by adults.
I think it’s important to be aware of how you communicate. As Maya Angelou said, people will forget your words but not how you made them feel. The emotional environment you create around yourself is the result of far more than the content of your speech. Decide on the way you want to make people feel and make sure your interactions with other people are directly in line with this emotional goal.
6) Individual Impact
The bystander effect is a psychological phenomenon that refers to situations in which individuals do not offer any means of help to a victim when other people are present. The probability of help is inversely related to the number of bystanders. China has over 1.3 billion people, so I got to see this apathy on a large scale.
Due to the high concentration of population in China, this bystander effect leads to them being pretty permissive of activities in public. Chinese people didn’t bat an eye regarding things I would stop and stare at. It’s a very laid-back atmosphere. But this can lead to a massive transferal of responsibility about concerning matters. I saw some pretty wild things that were ignored by the people around it, because it was always assumed someone else would help or it wasn’t their business.
Being proactive in life is a valuable lesson we all learn. Your impact as an individual is not insignificant, and the ripples you create can truly shake the ocean.
7) Patience
My mother’s mantra during my youth was “patience is a virtue.” She needed to repeat this frequently during that time because it was advice I sorely needed. Patience is one of those concepts that we all agree is good but don’t put effort into demonstrating it, much like washing your hands in the bathroom or not texting while driving.
Patience is misleading at first, because it seems to be such a passive attitude. Just wait and do nothing like Spongebob Squarepants and the magic conch will provide you a harvest. This is an incomplete idea of what it means to be at peace with waiting. In the age of instant gratification, we feel that each second must be packed with something. You may feel that any wasted seconds are a dire circumstance. Maybe you don’t fully stop at stop signs or maybe you fantasize of drop-kicking that barista who makes a mistake with your order.
Having true patience means valuing the journey and cutting slack for other, imperfect human beings. It means letting your mind relax for a once and smelling the roses a bit more in life. We become so impatient over things that cannot be controlled, yet we don’t see the irony in this. Accept the flaws of yourself and others and let each conscious moment exist in its own right, without being so anxious to get to the next one.
8) Privacy Matters
Of the 1.3 billion Chinese citizens, 92% are of Han ethnicity. This means if you look different, it’s definitely noticeable. As a white male, I experienced various degrees of this attention from mild fascination to flat out, dumbfounded, mouth-on-the-floor staring. It’s flattering to have strangers ask you for photographs, but at a certain point I felt like an attraction at the zoo. After a period of severe frustration, I’ve come to terms with why the Chinese people have this fascination toward exotic Westerners. I’m just not the kind of person who wants that level of attention (except when it’s on my terms).
Being secretly photographed and filmed doing normal things gave me some sympathy for celebrities. To have strangers documenting your daily life was unnerving to me, and I started to think about what Hollywood stars must endure. I was getting attention simply for a physical appearance I had no choice in, yet they consciously bring on this attention. You hear about celebrities’ desires to live a “normal life”, yet they could find millions who would be dying to replace them as society’s treasure. People crave this superstar status, but don’t understand all the consequences of it.
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Many aspects of Chinese behavior are exaggerated to the point where I understand the eventual consequences of things if they’re taken too far. I could clearly see the results of some things that I believe are developing in the United States. And I also see some early signs of trends that began in the U.S. My big takeaway is that you are the sole proprietor of your existence, and your happiness, attitude, and impact ultimately blossom from within you. Society wants to place you in a neat box and guide you down the road it has paved for you, but you choose where to walk. Take a moment, when you can, to pay attention to where your feet are going, and who is moving them.
The Separation
We are held in the grasp of a force. The power wielded by this force is subtle, but it’s becoming increasingly unavoidable. Every day I witness this force drawing people away from what’s important and what’s real. It’s an addiction that removes us from our present moment and deposits us in a world of affirmation and anxiety. Our daily lives are consumed by this attraction, and it’s creating a blindness that needs to be addressed.
Nothing is more ubiquitous than a cell phone today. Living in China, you wouldn’t believe the kind of attachment I witness between people and their phones. Every time I walk down a street I’m confronted with the digital dead. A hunched neck and restless thumbs are becoming the hallmarks of our generation, but we need to consider the effects.
In China it’s become common practice to use your phone while people are directly speaking to you. We’ve become so permissive about phone etiquette to the point that it takes priority over any other obligation. Recently I was contacted by someone, but was not near my phone. After ten minutes, they proceeded to ask if I was busy. Ten more minutes and they assumed that I didn’t want to talk to them. When I finally looked at my phone, I started to wonder “Why is my cell phone expected to be with me at all times?”
Phones are a necessity in this age. Unless you’re in water or kidnapped, is your phone ever out of arm’s reach? For many of us, our phones are the first and last things we see every day. So take a moment and think about how entwined your cell phone is in your life. Missing an email or a call can be such a detrimental thing to us emotionally, which is an indication that we should assess our relationship with our phones.
Constant access to your friends and entertainment has had a few inimical effects. We seek this instant gratification from each moment, and we have different reactions when our anxiety is not quenched. We may feel inferior compared to others when they are plugged in and we’re not. Maybe you diffuse awkward situations with a foray into the net; or maybe you just find that world comparatively better than the tangible world. But it must be understood that this world that cell phones allow access to is not the real world. It is intangible and ethereal, yet we are starting to value it more than reality.
What’s wrong with ignoring reality Alex?
Absolutely nothing. Whatever gets you through the day.
But consider the people you’re leaving behind in reality. Consider the human beings that exist whether or not you decide to get on your cellphone. If we collectively rejected the cell phone world, it would cease to exist. What I mean is, you can choose which reality you prefer, but the digital realm cannot replace your conscious existence.
The key is balance. The Golden Mean has been a philosophy spread for centuries, and it should apply to this as well. Be conscious of the time you are diverting and make an effort to understand why you’re diverting it. But at the same time don’t feel ashamed or guilty for looking at your phone. We need to allow ourselves time to indulge in our vices, as long as we wear the pants in the relationship.
We seem to fear being unconnected. So much effort is made to not be left alone with ourselves. A satisfying stillness and inner reflection occur when we .
Things outside of us own us. Maybe it’s your lover, an addictive feeling, or an object; but when these exterior forces control our thoughts, they drag us away from the present moment. The attraction tears away at us and slowly removes pieces until we don’t know where we went. Our minds are like dogs who are unaware of the length of their leash. So
Let’s Learn About: Socialism
Socialism.
That horrible insult of a word which we associate with our enemies. The U.S.S.R., the Nazis, and the hippies; all blood-thirsty monsters who want to enter your home by force, take your hard-earned possessions, and give them to other undeserving people. But if you enjoy public police forces, public infrastructure like roads and water/sewage systems, public schools, the military, social security, Robin Hood, or Jesus Christ, then you may enjoy an example of Socialism. We throw around the words Socialism and Communism, but do we really know what they mean? From watching T.V., reading the news, and owning social media accounts, I would say no.
So what is socialism and why should I indiscriminately hate it with no prior research?
Let’s take a deep breath a wipe our minds clean for a moment. I want you to pretend you have no knowledge of socialism and you’re eager to learn the correct definition.
Socialism is a economic system based on the means of production being publicly owned and a central organization (the state) guiding the economy. The state can own and redistribute resources among its citizens. It can be summed up in the maxim “From each to her/his ability, to each according to her/his contribution.” Due to socialism being applied in various forms, there’s a wide spectrum of socialist possibilities.
To contrast this, Capitalism is an economic and political system based on the means of production being privately owned and no central organization (the state) guiding the economy. The spirit of competition for resources is meant to encourage developing person success and increasing capital. This is based around a free, laissez-faire market and privatization of property.
Another big difference is the division of classes. The social structure of Capitalism centers around capital. Capitalists at the top supply wages for the working class, but there’s a large degree of mobility between classes. Socialism narrows that class system and strives to create a more even equality, thus reducing the chance for mobility. The Onion has a great, in-depth and scholarly comparison of Socialism vs. Capitalism.
So this is a very basic distinction between the two ideologies. The history and semantics of each system can be delved into, but let’s not. The point is, attaching an instinctive emotional response to a word can distract us from the actual meaning or intention of the word.
Another clear distinction needs to be made. Communism and Socialism are not exact synonyms. Socialism is diet Communism. Communism is the AIDS to Socialism’s HIV, the heroine to Socialist cough syrup, or the Trump to your racist grandmother. What I mean by this is, Communism is an extreme application of Socialism.
Communism exchanges “From each to her/his ability, to each according to her/his contribution” to “From each to her/his ability, to each according to her/his need.” Communism philosophy holds that the government should own all means of production and property. Each member of the society is exactly equal, and resources are redistributed as such. Imagine a certain line that marks the level of production. If someone exceeds this line, they are giving to the community. If someone falls short, the community gives to them. The ideal communist society is stateless and classless.
Though Capitalism and Communism are at odds (individualism vs. collectivism), Socialism has a wide freedom to flirt with both philosophies. A little sprinkle of Socialism in the United States gave us public parks and the welfare system. Many countries in Europe now implement Democratic Socialism, blending Capitalism and Socialism.
The main arguments against Socialism are entitlements, high tax rates, less incentive to excel relative to others, and the state taking a higher portion wealthy individuals’ capital. The main arguments in favor Socialism are universal health care, cheaper education, higher living wages, and economic accountability of market forces.
Hoping a collective society can work for the benefit of each other through Communism can be naive view of human behavior, but it’s quite an ideal to strive for. Taking the excess riches from someone to assist with someone in need is a noble Socialist sentiment, but it’s arbitrary to determine how much is too much. Allowing unrestrained commerce and emphasizing personal growth in Capitalism is a great way to further individual spirit, but can create vast inequality of wealth and leave some in the cold. Capitalism has done great things for the U.S. and varying degrees of Socialism have done great things in Europe.
Your feelings concerning these different economic and political philosophies are directly related to your feelings concerning capital and other humans.I believe it revolves around the questions how much money do I need to be happy, and how much of my personal wealth am I willing/able to share. Once you genuinely answer these two questions, I think you can start to understand the pros and cons of these philosophies and be able to argue the merits of each in a rational fashion.
A Day for Women
International Women’s Day affords us the opportunity to not only honor the gender that brings life into this world, but to examine the way we can honor them every other day of the year. If we want to support universal rights for every human being on this earth, women’s rights need to be at the top of the list. We cannot morally accept giving rights to half of the population on earth while excluding a specific group from these social, economic, and political freedoms. This world requires many changes to close the gap between reality and the ideal, but nothing is more important than women’s rights.
Women’s Day was recognized by the U.N. in the 1970s, but demonstrations for a day celebrating women began in the early 1900s. Women’s rights have made substantial advances in the past 100 years, but I’d like to go a little further back in the history of women’s rights in America.
In 1776, the U.S.A. burst forth from the womb of freedom and liberty to become an independent country. Our third president, Mr. Thomas Jefferson, wrote the original draft of the document that declared our independence from Britain. After the approximately 60 men of Second Continental Congress helped make final edits, we were left with the Declaration of Independence which declared in no uncertain terms “all men are created equal.”
Women were a little unrepresented in the founding legislation (the Continental Congress was comprised of 343 men… 0 women), so 72 years later at the first women’s rights convention in Seneca Falls, NY, Elizabeth Cady Stanton drafted the Declaration of Sentiments. She included the phrase “all men and women are created equal” along with 12 resolutions that outline the agenda for the women’s rights movement.
Two resolutions she wrote more than 160 years ago capture the way I feel about this issue today. The first is
“That woman is man’s equal, was intended to be so by the Creator, and the highest good of the race demands that she should be recognized as such.”
The second is
“That such laws as conflict, in any way, with the true and substantial happiness of woman, are contrary to the great precept of nature and of no validity, for this is superior in obligation to any other.”
This is something that men and women in power must grasp. Equal rights for women is not a zero-sum game; the rise of women does not result in the fall of men. A collaborative effort between the sexes improves the lives of everyone involved. We wield great power when we work together toward common goals. Elizabeth Cady Stanton realized the mutual benefit of equality and that it’s ludicrous to purport a free society when rights are afforded to some and not all.
Women have earned the right of suffrage, but almost 100 years later they are still not adequately represented in government. The current United States senate and house are composed of 20% women each, even though the most recent census states that in America there are more women than men. There are currently 5 female governors, 6 if I include the District of Columbia. I think this is a major reason we are still struggling with equality issues for women. As Elizabeth Cady Stanton said “He has compelled [women] to submit to law in the formation of which she had no voice.”
As we look back at the history of women’s rights, it’s embarrassing how much time passed between the inception of the country and the 19th amendment. But this event was a solid indication that change is absolutely possible if there is enough force behind it. After the 19th amendment was passed Alice Paul pushed for more legislation to end discrimination, so she drafted the Equal Rights Amendment which simply stated
“Men and women shall have equal rights throughout the United States and every place subject to its jurisdiction.
Congress shall have power to enforce this article by appropriate legislation.”
To this day, the Equal Rights Amendment has not been passed, so I strongly believe women’s rights are still something every human should be concerned with.
I must insist that women’s rights not be view as a battle between men and women. It is between women and their oppressors, meaning anyone who obstructs a woman in ways that are exclusive only to women and disrupt their pursuit of life, liberty, and happiness. This refers to:
people who refuse to acknowledge pay inequity (the gap is closing, but CEOs are still disproportionately men),
people who interfere with reproductive rights (see Roe v. Wade and the ethical intent of the Hippocratic Oath),
people who tolerate, commit, or make excuses for sexual harassment/abuse (or misunderstand consent),
or people who deny education to women (but you can help),
people who don’t view women as qualified leaders,
people who think women don’t need paid maternity leave (maternity leave in the U.S.)
sex traffickers,
and people who think they are superior to others based on gender, race, or religion.
I will never understand how the Republican party can demonize an overreaching government, but defend its right to extend its laws to inside a woman’s body.
This International Women’s Day, the thing I believe we should focus on most is the perception of women. Changes in legislation begin with a change in perspective, so it’s necessary to look inside ourselves and be aware of our view toward women. My goal is to promote an attitude that regards women as human beings who all have the potential to exhibit ability, strength, intelligence, and leadership. We do not need to compare them to men, or even to other women. We only need to provide equal opportunities, assess value objectively, and allow each individual to develop their potential and share their gifts. Susan B. Anthony, Elizabeth Cady Stanton, Lucy Stone, Margaret Sanger, Coretta Scott King, Eleanor Roosevelt, and the countless other fighters for equal rights did not want special treatment, they wanted equal opportunity, equal representation, the eradication of discrimination, and for women to be given the respect they deserve.
As we celebrate this day, I hope we can renew the effort to cooperate in this regard. Men can empathize with their sisters by promoting an egalitarian attitude and joining forces with rights movements. Prejudice has no place in this world. Women can support each other and work against forces that would try to divide them. Women themselves need to define who they want to be. We need a combined force to end discrimination, but we must begin with ourselves and value women as much more than child-bearers or sexual objects.
Above all we must establish a meritocracy built upon equal opportunity. We cannot determine our gender or race, but we can control our attitude and our efforts. The path to happiness should be forged by an individual without discriminatory obstacles such as the ones women have to face every day. As Elizabeth Cady Stanton eloquently expounded, women’s rights, “being a self-evident truth growing out of the divinely implanted principles of human nature, any custom or authority adverse to it, whether modern or wearing the hoary sanction of antiquity, is to be regarded as a self-evident falsehood, and at war with mankind.”
Why I Support
This year the U.S. will potentially elect the first woman, Latino person, Jewish person or gin-soaked raisin that has emerged from a nuclear plant. A highly polarized political environment has provided quite the show in this election cycle. In my view, the United States needs a woman president like yesterday, but they need someone else much more this year.
I support Bernie Sanders. Please do your own research on Bernie and the issues before you let the media or your friends tell you what to think. I’m not telling you who to support, but I’d like to state my personal convictions. If you watch an interview or speech of Sanders, you’ll hear the sincerity he has for what he does. His honesty shines through not only in his rhetoric, but in his improvised answers and his personality. He truly believes in the power of the people to work for their best interest. Ethics guide this man’s work, yet he’s always open to changing his mind when provided the right evidence and intention; not money. But the appeal reaches beyond his genuine demeanor.
Sanders knows how to get things done.
Sanders has a proven record of finding compromise. As an Independent, Sanders could not rely on people within his own political party to automatically support his proposals. He learned, more than anyone else, how to work with differing views to achieve a common goal. From 1994-2006, when Republicans controlled the House, the person who passed the most amendments was not a Republican or a Democrat. It was an Independent, Mr. Bernie Sanders. He brought together bi-partison coalitions and protected pensions, increased funding to help poor people heat their homes, and even expanded free health care by $100 million. He continued to pass amendments in the Senate with support from both sides of the aisle. More than any other candidate, he can relinquish his ego for the sake of the American people. His campaign has continuously emphasized the need for all people to unite and create the political system they desire.
Sanders is a true leader.
Sanders is an absolute inspiration among the sleazy puppets that share his profession. This man has rallied millions behind him despite his myriad faux pas that American politics would usually reject. A Jewish, ancient, self-declared democratic socialist is suddenly a viable candidate for president. At this point he’s received more individual contributions to his campaign than anyone in American history. Even if he doesn’t receive the nomination, he has inspired a generation of young voters to be engaged in politics.
The force behind his ideas and leadership is so powerful, he’s dictated the issues for the Democratic campaigns. Hillary Clinton has adopted many of Sanders’ positions and has been noticeably pulled toward his ideas. Bernie is such an influential candidate, he’s even made his opponents better candidates. All of his speeches end with a call for people to disregard their differences and work together because “together, there’s nothing we can’t accomplish.” Isn’t that the type of leader you desire? One who empowers others without self-aggrandizement and preaches a cooperative effort toward ideals?
Bernie is shooting for the stars with the right heart and the right mindset.
Bernie’s idealism is unique because it isn’t purely the American ideal. What I mean by that is he’s not afraid to admit America could learn from the success of other countries. With many other countries to study, we have tangible results from their political experiments. The American notion that our ways are infallible or unassailable is pure arrogance that can blind us to better methods. Sanders is brave enough to admit that we’re not the greatest country in many aspects, but he believes in our potential to fix this. He fuels this ambition with an ability to evaluate multiple perspectives and guides his intentions with empathy.
I’m behind Bernie for many reasons, but I’ll tell you something many Bernie supports won’t say:
he’s going to fail.
If he doesn’t fail to become president, he will fail to achieve all of his goals.
And that’s fine.
I think some of Bernie’s tax plans, healthcare reforms and desires to demonize corporations are a little too overreaching for the current state America is in. So the fact that the existing powers will water down his policies a bit is absolutely ideal to me. The odds are all against him and overwhelming forces oppose him if he becomes president. Bernie wants to bring about drastic changes to our system, but the current majority in Congress is the Republican party, who emphasizes traditional values and does not seem eager to work with Bernie. Their reaction to the Affordable Care Act shows how eager they would be to adopt Sandercare.
American history is full of examples that we are resistant to change. In fact, the majority of the times we’ve been able to bring change quickly is when we are united through fear. Under the shadow of fear, it’s easier to divide us. When we were scared, the government has been able to quickly declare war, pass the Patriot Act, create the federal reserve, and invade other countries. When Americans were trying to bring change that promoted understanding and equality, the change took time. When we were filtering our policies through love, we embraced others and tried to merge our desires. The battles of civil rights movements, marriage equality, women’s suffrage, and poverty eradication are slow, but the avalanche always starts with a snowflake.
With such a divided Congress, passing incremental change is nearly impossible. The brilliant part is, Sanders is proposing drastic changes that will leave enough room for compromise. If the legislative branch meets Sanders halfway on his goals, we’d still be taking a big step in the right direction. College could become much less expensive, the minimum wage could be increased, some tax-loopholes could be closed, pharmaceutical companies could be forced to price their drugs realistically, more money could be allocated to education than our military, the war on drugs could be diminished substantially, the country could take a step toward utilizing renewable energy resources, we could start the rebuilding of our country’s infrastructure, women could finally received some form of paid maternity leave, the criminal justice system could be undergo some crucial reforms, and we could take steps toward properly preventing racial discrimination within our police force.
Even with the support of the majority of the country (the majority of Americans already agree with most of his ideas), Bernie will not be able to achieve all of his goals. But he has the experience that tells me he’ll be able to negotiate these policies effectively. Our country will start taking baby steps toward focusing on education, health, equal rights, and achieving the best quality of life in the world. Sanders is a special candidate, and he deserves to be given a chance.
You don’t have to agree with him, or even want to get a beer with him, but he assuredly deserves our respect.
Drumpf
On the eve of Super Tuesday, America is on the verge of something important.
The beginning of the end.
Super Tuesday signifies the top of the roller coaster in this primary cycle. We’ve been building this anticipation for several months and our eyes are about to spread over the horizon as we finish the climb. 13 primaries will elect a candidate tomorrow, giving the country a much better idea of who the final picks will be. The clown car of potential candidates can now comfortably fit in a mini van, but the winner for both sides is still unclear.
Why should we care, Alex?
The diametrically-opposed parties that compose American politics create a big schism between the political views of Americans. Every modern presidential election seems to be choosing between complete opposites; black and white if you will (this was literally the case in 2008 and 2012). This election is obviously important because we are choosing between two starkly different paths for the direction of America. But we’re also selecting a representative to choose new Supreme Court justices. With the death of Scalia and the age of some of the justices, replacements need to be chosen within the next few years (regardless of how you feel about how promptly to fill Scalia’s vacancy). This can have a huge impact on our lives and how the law becomes interpreted in America.
This election is something special though. This election is about winning the heart of the working class and showing the people of America that their government can truly represent them. Candidates are pushing this populist thinking, but in a VERY different way.
This brings me to Drumpf. The person leading polls in America is a reality show star who has never held political office. Donald Drumpf is not someone that I respect or admire in any sense. I think he is erratic, self-centered, and lacks the ability for empathy. His goals and desires revolve around self-aggrandizement and greed. Success as he defines it comes at the exclusion, not inclusion, of others.
That being said, Donald brings something special that Americans have not seen in many years. A candidate who truly shows what they are. I use “what” and not “who” in Drumpf’s case. The Donald has struck a chord with Americans because he personifies their frustration with the powers that be. Even more, he also says all the things you want to say but are smart enough not to. This creates a character that inspires devotion and hatred at the same time. He’s such a polarizing figure and he’s fully aware of the political power that brings. Decades of a plutocracy in America has provided the vacuum for Drumpf to arise.
Brash behavior and petty arguments are usually reserved for middle school children, but Donald has cleverly used this to focus the media on himself. He’s captivated the primal part of us that enjoys watching someone getting kicked in the crotch, or paying attention to twitter feuds.
But this man cannot be our president.
You can research Drumpf for yourself. You’ll easily find his failed businesses, risky investments, disturbing anecdotes, constant arrogance, racist endorsements, vulgar comments, and misogynist beauty pageant. But I want to talk about something that hasn’t been addressed enough.
I currently live in China. I’ve been traveling/living outside the U.S. for about two years, and this has helped me meet people from all over the world. America is a powerful culture, and it can be hard to escape our media. Countries around the world know who Drumpf is and what he’s been saying. I’m getting pretty embarrassed because I have to explain to my friends what the hell is going on with him. They keep asking me how this is happening, and I have no answer.
And you know how much international support Mr. Drumpf has? I bet you can guess.
Who cares if people like our president?
Our president is the symbol of our country. Everyone in China knows who Obama is, and at the minimum they associate our country solely with him. Now imagine President Drumpf representing the U.S. in France, Japan, Germany, England, China, etc. You think people will respect his opinions outside of the U.S.? The U.K. parliament already debated banning him from the U.K. because more than 300,000 people signed a petition. At a time when several problems require collaborative efforts from the international community (ISIS, climate change, refugees), how can America remain a respected world power when Drumpf could potentially ruin relationships with the other countries any day?
Let’s forget about Drumpf or Clinton or Rubio or Sanders or Cruz. For a moment, just imagine the qualities you want in a leader. The ideal woman or man that embodies excellence; with the kind of spirit that can rally a nation. For me, this person has respect for others and tries to represent the people, not their own selfish interests. For me, success cannot purely be defined by money because there’s no ceiling on greed. I think the people who support Trump are channeling their frustration into the candidate that has the confidence of a leader. Their ideal is based on this aura of success, not the ideas and policies that compose it.
So before you vote, determine the important things you want America to focus on. Be it education, jobs, GDP, wealth inequality, traditional values, terrorism, guns, or healthcare; you need to create a well-founded opinion before you cast a ballot based on pure emotion.
The international community already views America in a selfish light, and I do not want to validate this by electing a person like Drumpf. I do not hate any Drumpf supporters, because I share their irritation with our government. We all want a better system. But I think we can bring this reform in a way that unites people and does not make advances at the expense of others.
As Drumpf has articulated quite well, he is good at business and has money. I don’t know why these two things are suddenly qualifiers for president.







